Adulthood is a scam. The lyrics of that songs echoes in my mind daily as I face what each day of this adulthood life brings. The song continues, “Nobody go ask if you don chop, nobody go send you free money! If no have na you sabi! Adulthood na scam! “
Many of us have been led to believe that adulthood is the ultimate goal, the peak of our existence where we finally have all the answers, financial stability, and freedom to do as we please. However, the reality is far from this idyllic picture. No one ever warned us about the struggles that come with adulthood, leaving us unprepared to navigate through the murky waters of this phase.
There are a few things to consider on this journey and dealing with the concept of perfection is one of them! it’s okay to not have everything figured out. It is okay to not have everything figured out.
As author and motivational speaker Brene Brown said, “Imperfections are not inadequacies;” Adulthood is a learning experience, and making mistakes is part of the journey. It’s okay to stumble, but we must learn to get back up and keep going.
The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.
Carol Dweck
We can choose to be inspired by the challenges of adulthood and use them as opportunities for growth or wallow in self pity hoping to be rescued !
Self care is a priority especially when one has to juggle work, family, and personal responsibilities,
Similarly, fighting for success in adulthood shouldn’t come at the expense of our physical and mental well-being. Prioritizing self-care is crucial in maintaining a healthy work-life balance.
Building a support system is also important. As writer and poet Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Having friends or family members who understand our struggles and can offer support and advice is crucial. We should also try to find like-minded individuals and build connections through clubs or groups that align with our interests or hobbies.
Lastly, we need to cultivate a growth mindset. As author Carol Dweck once said, “The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.” A growth mindset means embracing challenges and failures as opportunities for growth. We should learn to persevere and view setbacks as stepping stones towards success.
Adulthood is indeed a scam, but it’s also an inevitable phase of life. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, but we can’t let it consume us.
Acknowledging that it’s okay to not have everything figured out, prioritizing self-care, building a support system, and cultivating a growth mindset are some of the ways we can cope with the challenges of adulthood. Remember, we’re all in this together, and with the right mindset and support, we can navigate through this phase and come out stronger.
In the end, when you wake up at 4am to pee and all you do is stay up and calculate your next move and expenses then you wonder Adulthood koraaa “Wo k) h) k) y3 d3n?” (WKHKYD)